Help! My Child Needs More Confidence
Does your child possess a healthy sense of confidence? Answer yes if your child
makes friends easily, accepts leadership opportunities and displays a bright,
But if your child is timid, shy and passive, with few friends and little initiative,
your child needs help now.
The problems start small, a child who can’t interact with his or her peers or won’t
look an adult in the eye. But as a child grows these problems do, too — and before
long this child is the target of bullies, prone to peer pressure and withdrawn in
the classroom. Kids like this are called “painfully shy” for good reason.
A child with self-confidence problems needs to improve his or her self-esteem. In
this report, we’ll share some ideas on how this can be done.
First, let’s review the five common problems your child may
1. Timid and shy
Children who are quiet and unassertive find it difficult to interact with both peers
and adults. They can find themselves overlooked in both school and social
It is difficult for such children to “break out of their shell” in order to build
friendships and gain leadership skills, both essential qualities for personal
2. Loner, not a leader
Shyness and a lack of self confidence force children onto the sidelines and away
from the action.
Children who fail to participate in activities do not allow their skills to develop,
further lowering their self-esteem and insecurity.
Leadership in particular is a quality that must be learned. Children who are not
encouraged to build this skill lose out on this powerful opportunity.
3. Bully magnet
As a parent, there is nothing more agonizing than knowing your child is suffering
from the emotional abuse of a bully.
If you, too, were bullied as a child, you know yourself that the scars can take a
lifetime to heal.
Sadly, children who are quiet, shy and unassuming tend to get bullied. For such
children, it is essential that they turn their attitude around and learn the steps
they must take to avoid this problem.
4. Hesitant to try new things
Children can view new experiences as exciting challenges — or as insurmountable
barriers. It’s all in the attitude.
The fear of failure is a powerful deterrent to trying new things and gaining new
skills. It contributes to feelings of low self-esteem.
If a child is easily overwhelmed, it’s important to introduce new concepts and
experiences step by step.
5. Caves into peer pressure
Do you worry that your child might be saying “yes” when he or she should be
A child needs tremendous strength and good character to avoid the dangers and
temptations that young people encounter in today’s society.
If you suspect your child is in with the wrong crowd, don’t wait until it is too late
to help them build the character they need.
We have the solutions!
There are many ways of addressing the problems of insecurity and shyness. After
our extensive work with kids of all ages, here are methods we’ve found to be most
Every great success starts with one important factor: enough faith in yourself to
get the job done.
With that firm foundation, truly anything is possible.
Building a child’s confidence is all about personal empowerment, giving them the
chance to succeed, and acknowledging that success.
From there, the sky’s the limit.
Confidence that shows — that’s how we define a good attitude.
A bright smile, a firm handshake, a straight posture and a strong voice project
Peers and teachers take notice of children with a winning attitude. It is greatly
important, therefore, to be friendly and helpful, both at home and at school.
We all want our children to become leaders. But how exactly can we get it done?
Helping around the house and volunteering in the community are some places to
start. As they master tasks and chores, their responsibility will also grow.
Few of us are natural born leaders; it is a skill that must be learned through
experience. The essential key, then, is to give a child the opportunity to become a
It’s not very useful to tell a child to avoid a bully if you can’t tell the child how to
Children need to understand there is a very specific course of action to be taken
in dangerous situations.
Does your child know exactly what to do if he or she is being harassed by a bully?
Do they know what to do if approached by a stranger?
If you have specific instructions, discuss them with your child on occasion. In
cases like this, knowledge is power indeed.
Martial arts can help!
It’s one thing to hold the keys to helping your child build confidence. It’s another
thing, though, to start the motor and make it happen.
Many of these time-tested principles are difficult for parents to implement alone.
They take time, effort and constant reinforcement.
Here’s where martial arts can help. The group dynamics, our positive approach
and our strong moral code help foster the skills that will last a lifetime.
Martial arts builds confidence
If your child is shy, it might be hard to imagine him or her putting on a uniform,
stepping onto the mat and learning martial arts.
Martial arts instructors understand this fear and can turn such experiences into
powerful lessons of empowerment.
Martial arts instructors undergo extensive training. They know how to build an
excellent rapport by offering plenty of praise and encouragement.
It is their job to bring out the best in every child.
Martial arts deters bullies
Martial arts schools teach children exactly how to make the bullying stop — and it
doesn’t involve fighting. Martial arts builds confidence.
Along with the martial arts skills, children learn how to deflect verbal and
physical confrontation through role-playing exercises and guidelines.
Martial arts students learn how to be in control during such situations — so on
the playground, bullies get the message.
Martial arts is the right stuff
Confident, strong and happy — We all have a strong vision of how we want our
children to turn out.
The decisions we make today have great bearing on our children’s futures. A child
who is insecure today is susceptible to negative peer pressure in the future.
Martial arts provide positive experiences for children, and offers tangible goals
and rewards that help them stay focused.
Having strong, positive role models — from the instructors to the higher-ranking
students — helps reinforce the values parents are working to teach at home.
We call it a black-belt attitude. It is both our goal — and our code of conduct.
If you’d like to learn more about how martial arts can improve your child’s self
confidence, please contact us and we’ll be happy to answer any questions you